Being part of a wedding party can be expensive. Planning parties, buying dresses, shoes, jewelry, outings, and still having to get wedding presents, all of it starts to add up very quickly. Bridesmaids can sometimes spend close to $1000 when everything is said and done. Whatever your situation, it’s completely understandable to be hesitant to being in a wedding party with expenses like that!
If you’re really close with the bride and you couldn’t imagine not being part of her wedding, be honest with her. Discuss your financial situation and see if you can work something out so that you are still able to be part of the party without spending as much money. However, if you just can’t swing it, don’t feel bad if you have to say no. The bride should understand!
Do some research to find places where you can all get nice dress, for lower prices, and suggest them to the bride and bridal party. Same with any jewelry or shoes, see where you can get items just as nice, but for a cheaper price.
Whatever you decide, try and have a budget set before hand. If you have to get them a smaller wedding gift, so be it! Make it more personal, or get them a gift card to their favorite coffee or drink place, enough for a drink on you.
If you just can’t afford to be part of the bride tribe, see if you can offer your services elsewhere. Help with floral arrangements, centerpieces, invitation writing and addressing, setting up for the ceremony or reception, or helping usher the day of.
If the bride asked you to be part of her special day, you obviously are important to her! Try your best to help out in anyway you can, but don’t feel bad if you can’t say yes!