You want your bridal party to be the dream team; all your best girls by your side, helping you plan and celebrate the biggest day of your life! So, how do you choose? Here are some tips on narrowing down your bridesmaid list.
Family Comes First
As long as you have at least some sort of (positive) relationship with the women in your family, it’s a good idea to include at least one in your wedding party. That could mean your sister, your fiancee’s sister, a cousin, or any other close relative. If there is no way you can spend all the extra time with any of the younger women in your family (and everyone already realizes it) don’t sweat it.
There Should Be a Limit
Of course you want every important friend/relative in your party! But too many can not only be costly, it can also be stressful, especially if there is a chance some of your girls don’t get along. Set a limit for yourself for how many you’d like in your party. If you have to make cuts, try to find a different way to keep that person special on your big day; seat them in the front row, have them help usher during the ceremony, ask them to do a scripture reading (if your having a religious ceremony), or anything so they know how special they are to you.
Men Are Welcome
If you have a really great guy friend, or maybe you and your brother have always been super close, you don’t have to count them out just because they are male! Plenty of brides include the special men in their life in their wedding party, they are just usually referred to as attendants, or bridesmen!
You Don’t Have to Return the Invite
If you were in a friend’s wedding party, but you just don’t see a place for them in yours, that’s completely acceptable. Just because they asked you, doesn’t not make you obligated to return the invitation.
Two Maids of Honor
There is nothing wrong with having two maids of honor! Especially if you have more than one close sister, or a close sister and really close bestie. If you choose to have two maids of honor, communicate. Tell them each exactly what you would like each of them to do/be in charge of, including who is going to stand next to you during the ceremony, who will hold your bouquet, etc, to avoid any arguing in the future.
Parties Don’t Have to Match
You don’t have to have the same number of groomsmen as bridesmaids! If you have less women in your party than men, don’t sweat it. Just figure out the logistics a little differently, but don’t feel like they have to be the exact same numbers!