So, you’re planning your wedding and you keep noticing your friend’s not-so-similar plans. It’s more than just casual envy; your engaged friend is planning her wedding and it’s insane. Her budget is completely out of reach for you, and she makes it known. Often. You try to ignore it and focus on your wedding (and your budget) but you can’t help but notice the gorgeous and huge venue she just booked that you would have loved, had you been able to afford it. UGH! How do you handle keeping your cool and trying not to let the jealousy get overwhelming? We have some tips.
Recognize the Signs
If you notice your fist clenching every time your friend mentions her wedding planning, or you feel you face heat with rage every time she brings up money, take note. Notice how things are making you feel and ask yourself why. There’s a good chance you’re not angry at your pal for having the *perfect* wedding, but you probably are a little jealous.
Bring Your Attention Elsewhere
Refocus your energy and attention to planning your wedding, not steaming over how annoying it is that Trish book the best band in town and found an amazing and completely out of your budget florist. Remember that her day is about her and your fiancee, and your day is about you and yours! Focus on planning a wedding unique to you and your partner (and your budget), and try not to think about someone else’s perfect day.
Flip the Emotion
Each time you start to feel the green monster take over, remind yourself that you’re not angry or really jealous. Instead, admire her day and her planning. Focus on positive emotions and thoughts; you have a lot of admiration for her, and you wish her and her fiancee well! You want to have an amazing day, remember that she wants to have an amazing day, too.
Remember, a little envy is totally normal! So don’t let it get in the way of your friendship. You can still be friends, despite having a little jealousy over how she was able to plan her wedding day. It’s not worth ruining a good friendship over.